Breaking Free Of The Mold

You know , as a massage therapist in a busy city like London, I meet all kinds of people and they told me many stories during or after the session. Some stories are happy and some are sad, few made me thinking….this is my latest thought that I would like to share with readers.

We all know how suggestible children are as they are growing up. They are influenced by their parents, teachers, peers etc. “You write your description of values on their souls, which are like wet clay, so that what you write becomes a permanent part of the way they see the world and relate to life”, says Brian Tracy, author of The Power Of Self-Discipline.

If you grew up in a highly religious family or you’re like me whose parents had very rigid and “moral” ideas about the world that basically equate with puritanism, it might have been very difficult to break free from the mold. Many feel incapable of dealing with the world and through self-imposed boundaries, they may choose to isolate themselves to a social circle which reinforces familiarity, rather than venture out into the unknown.

It reminds me of a story I heard about how farmers use electric fences to keep their horses from running free. These electric fences are made with a tiny strand of wire enough to give an animal a jolt, but not hurt it. However, after a few startling zaps, the horses quickly learn where they can or cannot roam. They learn so well, in fact, that the farmer can shut off the electricity and even replace the wire with string, knowing that the horses will remain put.

So are invisible boundaries stopping you from extending yourself above and beyond what you are capable of, because you are afraid that by breaking free from the mold, you will not know where to go? Lots of people face that problem. They would rather stay where it is safe and cozy and they know what to expect, than face the unknown. Going beyond what you are capable of, takes that initial step and the courage to the leap over the fence so to speak. And once you’ve made that step, I believe you will instinctively know where you want to go. As you start going down the path you’ve laid out for yourself, you will only begin to gather up momentum.

Now, it becomes a question of figuring out where you are stuck. It can be any area of your life, from relationships, money, career etc. Once you’ve identified where your freedom has been limited, begin to tune in and pay close attention to your thought process. What do you tell yourself inside your mind that has you terrorized and locked in like a horse enslaved by a piece of string?

Is it worth believing?